So I’m supposed to be writing a post today about how you can make your washer and dryer look cool with electrical tape. While it’s a great tip and trick, I’m just not feeling it today. We promise to keep things authentic and real here on EC2 and today writing about a stupid washing machine just isn’t going to fly. (It’ll come soon though I promise- and if you aren’t up for anything heavy, skip to the ridiculous video at the end of the post)
The past two days someone I love very much has been going through a crazy rough time. We’re talking bottom of the barrel crapola here. It’s one of those situations where I’m doing all I can, but it’s going to come down to just a lot of praying and waiting and a long road ahead. So today, I just can’t feel inspired by electrical tape. Today I’m thinking about how a person so close to you can get so far away and how we let them. I’m thinking about busyness and how perhaps schedule has trumped relationship. I’m also thinking about focus and intentionality. In Ann Voskamp’s forward to Tsh Oxenreider’s new book she writes, “Simplicity is never a matter of circumstances; simplicity is always a matter of focus.”
I’m pretty sure I often let my circumstances drive my focus rather than the other way around. This situation really showing me that.
I usually pride myself on being relationally intentional and making time for people, but there’s one area I really fall short in… long distance. I don’t do the long distance relationship thing well, if at all. I’m such people and relationally driven person, that when I’m not in close proximity, I kind of just let it go and focus on who’s nearby. For people that I care about that are far away, well that’s not awesome at all. Flashback: I moved out of state when I was almost 17 years old and I was NOT happy about it. I didn’t know how to start a new life that my family wanted, when everything I wanted was 6 hours away. I tried for one miserable year to combine both worlds, and then finally just cut off everyone I’d known and loved for 17 years. It was the only way I knew how to make things work. I just focused on what was right in front of me and unfortunately forfeited a lot of life-long relationships. Flashforward: I have some amazing friends and relationships. I hear a lot of times from bloggers that they sometimes feel isolated or like most of their relationships are with other amazing bloggers that live far away. That’s not my case at all. I am so thankful to feel like I have more friendships and relationships than I sometimes can even manage, but if you move away- watch out, I fall off the face of the earth.
So, today someone I love to pieces is a mess and although I’ve done a lot to help when we’re together, I sucked a duck at being supportive from afar. I’m stepping back today to align my focus and get back to simple. Not like eating whole foods, or making my kids clothes (ain’t no shame in that though), but simple like the things that matter. Relationships, People that are hurting, family, and faith. Hopefully, simple will help me to not need a hot mess situation to realize when something is off kilter next time.
Do any of you rock at the long distance thing or have any good advice? I’d love to hear it.
Thanks for letting me just keep it real today, and if it was a bit much for you, here’s a completely ridiculous movie I made with my kids two nights ago. (Don’t judge the lack of makeup or the fact that we condone killing zombies with Nerf Guns)